Being the Most Liberal In My Family

7 11 2012


I am happy Obama won. I’m pretty liberal, so I wasn’t going to vote for Romney anyway, but I think Obama will be more supportive of women’s rights.


I was talking with my aunt, who didn’t vote. Most of my family doesn’t, besides my mom. But my aunt said she would have voted for Obama. However, when I bought up Planned Parenthood, which will hopefully stay around for a long time, my aunt said that she didn’t like them, because they perform abortions. (Like that’s all Planned Parenthood does.) And we got into the abortion debate. Now, like I said, I’m a liberal, and I am very pro choice. My aunt is not, and insists life begins at conception. It was quite interesting to talk about it with her, as she has very strong convictions about it. But I think that ‘pro lifers’ (I don’t like that term, it’s not like pro choice people go around committing infanticide and forcing abortions on women) are unrealistic, illogical, and don’t seem to care what happens to the babies once they’re born. Not every baby born in this world, right now, is a wanted child. There are children who are neglected and abandoned by their parents because their parents never really wanted to have them in the first place, children who end up in foster care because their parents can’t care for them. Why make more? I do agree that people shouldn’t be using abortion as birth control, because that’s just irresponsible, but if you’re being careful because you don’t want a baby, why should you be forced to carry one to term?


My aunt said that an unborn baby could grow up to cure cancer. I think that’s a rather stupid argument, because they could also grow up to be a burden on society, or for dramatic effect, a serial killer.


And my aunt also seems to think that motherhood is something that you should just accept, if it’s a possibility. It’s ridiculous. You should choose to be a parent. I hope one day that I will be ready to be a mother. No one should say ‘you have to be a mother’, especially when there seems to be far less pressure on a man to be a father. It’s true that many will think less of a man for not taking care of his child, but if a woman doesn’t want to be a mother, I think people see that as a worse thing.


Then there’s adoption. I think adoption is a beautiful thing, a wonderful way to build a family. However, I don’t think that it should be seen as the only alternative to parenting. I would never say to someone that didn’t want to parent a child that they should just give the child up for adoption. You would have to go through an entire pregnancy, which is very taxing physically and emotionally, then give birth, which by all accounts is no walk in the park, and then hand the result over to someone else. It’s not like giving away a pair of shoes or something.

And what if your job requires you not to be pregnant? You’re a model, a trainer, a construction worker? You work around chemicals or drive a lot? Are you supposed to be broke for months or look for a new job so a baby you don’t even want can grow? I don’t get it. I really don’t.

All I really know is this: Abortion is legal, I am fine with it, and no one is going to tell me or any other woman that they have to have a baby just because they got pregnant. Partly because I don’t want to end up like my cousins, who have a kid apiece, each by a guy who they aren’t with (one’s a drug addict and the other’s just a jerk), and who don’t seem to be going so far.

I am so the odd one out in my family. Not religious, not conservative, open minded…intelligent. …that was mean. Besides, my mother and my brother are pretty smart. (My mother is sort of old fashioned and my brother is an image obsessed teenager who thinks he knows everything and believes the Illuminati controls everything, which is either true and there’s nothing I can do about it, and thus I don’t care, or isn’t true, and thus I don’t care.)

I also despair that as we get older, we become less idealistic. My mother won’t even talk about hot button issues anymore, for the most part.



Okay, calmer now. But I did it! I managed to secure a job. I appear competent and professional and I WILL DO MY BEST SO THAT MAYBE THEY WILL KEEP ME! If they don’t keep me, at least I will have some money until I find something else and I will write more and save for school and I might be okay!  I am 75% excited and 25% nervous. I will breathe.


Way more snow then I thought there was gonna be. I hope it’s a little clearer tomorrow so I don’t have to be heading to my first day in my puffy coat and lined galoshes. If I must, then I will dress as professionally as possible underneath. I find it a little bit funny because my dress for work is going to be restaurant black and white, but oh well.


For tonight, I will relax, try to sleep well, and get off to a good start tomorrow.  Thanks for reading!


Sincerely yours,





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